Comments on: Are You Afraid of Your Acting Out Child? Part II: 7 Ways to Get Back Parental Authority http://www.myproblemchild.net/articles/are-you-afraid-of-your-acting-out-child-part-ii-7-ways-to-get-back-parental-authority/ Helping Parents Deal with Obnoxious, Defiant and Abusive Kids Mon, 15 Aug 2011 19:30:54 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Chris Thompson http://www.myproblemchild.net/articles/are-you-afraid-of-your-acting-out-child-part-ii-7-ways-to-get-back-parental-authority/comment-page-1/#comment-109 Chris Thompson Wed, 03 Feb 2010 21:30:39 +0000 http://www.myproblemchild.net/?p=175#comment-109 Courtney - for the age group you are talking about, you should DEFINITELY look at "Talking To Toddlers, which <a href="http://talkingtotoddlers.com" rel="nofollow">you can find here</a>. At this age, the key is to establish solid communications skills with your child. Talking To Toddlers does this for you. Check it out! Courtney – for the age group you are talking about, you should DEFINITELY look at “Talking To Toddlers, which you can find here. At this age, the key is to establish solid communications skills with your child. Talking To Toddlers does this for you. Check it out!

]]> By: Courtney http://www.myproblemchild.net/articles/are-you-afraid-of-your-acting-out-child-part-ii-7-ways-to-get-back-parental-authority/comment-page-1/#comment-101 Courtney Mon, 18 Jan 2010 21:33:16 +0000 http://www.myproblemchild.net/?p=175#comment-101 Hi James - I have a 2.5-year old boy. I try my best to be a strict mom, but I've lately found myself stuck. I get so incredibly angry when my son "tantrums" that I'll do anything to avoid it. (So, I guess I fit right into this article which makes me very sad.) I don't scramble around trying to give him something to stop crying, but I have learned that distracting him away from whatever it is that's upsetting him works pretty well. Anyway, here's my specific question - my son is very particular and gets very upset when something is left undone. Like, making sure his trains are all on their tracks, or making sure his fan is turned on to the speed he wants. Because of this his bedtime routine(s) - both naps and nighttime - are a nightmare. They used to be so easy, and now they take forever. When it's time for bed, I want him down, right then. But, if we miss 1 thing that he feels should be done, he flips out and it turns into a huge tantrum that can't be stopped unless he's distracted and is allowed to do that one thing he wanted to do. For example, today, he was taking too long to walk up the stairs to his bedroom for naptime. I told him that if he didn't hurry up, I'd pick him up and he DIDN'T want that. So, when he continued to move slow I picked him up and he freaked out - huge tantrum. It wasn't going to stop unless he was allowed to walk up the stairs on his own. So, my question is, is he just the type of kid (I guess like OCD) who needs to complete certain things before he can move to the next - because he never fights getting in bed - or am I just being too lenient with his bedtime routines? And, if so, do I just make him go to bed in a tantrum, because he's upset over something, and sit there and scream for hours? Seriously, I've yet to see my kid stop from a tantrum. Time outs don't work - and I tell him he can't come out until he's done crying. He doesn't stop until I can't take anymore and distract him. I know this is long, but your articles are unique and seem to fit my situation right now. I HATE this age and don't want to end up with a defiant teenager who gets away with murder. Thanks for your help! Hi James -

I have a 2.5-year old boy. I try my best to be a strict mom, but I’ve lately found myself stuck. I get so incredibly angry when my son “tantrums” that I’ll do anything to avoid it. (So, I guess I fit right into this article which makes me very sad.) I don’t scramble around trying to give him something to stop crying, but I have learned that distracting him away from whatever it is that’s upsetting him works pretty well.

Anyway, here’s my specific question – my son is very particular and gets very upset when something is left undone. Like, making sure his trains are all on their tracks, or making sure his fan is turned on to the speed he wants. Because of this his bedtime routine(s) – both naps and nighttime – are a nightmare. They used to be so easy, and now they take forever. When it’s time for bed, I want him down, right then. But, if we miss 1 thing that he feels should be done, he flips out and it turns into a huge tantrum that can’t be stopped unless he’s distracted and is allowed to do that one thing he wanted to do.

For example, today, he was taking too long to walk up the stairs to his bedroom for naptime. I told him that if he didn’t hurry up, I’d pick him up and he DIDN’T want that. So, when he continued to move slow I picked him up and he freaked out – huge tantrum. It wasn’t going to stop unless he was allowed to walk up the stairs on his own.

So, my question is, is he just the type of kid (I guess like OCD) who needs to complete certain things before he can move to the next – because he never fights getting in bed – or am I just being too lenient with his bedtime routines? And, if so, do I just make him go to bed in a tantrum, because he’s upset over something, and sit there and scream for hours? Seriously, I’ve yet to see my kid stop from a tantrum. Time outs don’t work – and I tell him he can’t come out until he’s done crying. He doesn’t stop until I can’t take anymore and distract him.

I know this is long, but your articles are unique and seem to fit my situation right now. I HATE this age and don’t want to end up with a defiant teenager who gets away with murder.

Thanks for your help!

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