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The frustrations for a parent are never simple or easy, and when your child has ODD, support can be hard to find. It’s common for other parents to assume that you simply don’t know how to control your child.

In a certain sense, this is true – the child frequently appears out of control. But with ODD, support is not a simple question of making the child behave like a normal child, but understanding why children behave the way they do in the first place… and what specifically is different about your child.

All children, regardless of age or background, have a fundamental idea that they want to get the things they want. We all have this basic need, and this simple desire. When children try to find the way to get what they want, defiance is an option that frequently works well; particularly in situations where a parent has proven unwilling to discipline the child.

Our society is changing in many ways. The disciplinary methods our parents used are frowned upon, but we rarely receive any education or instruction in the methods that should be used today… and on daytime television, there is a constant parade of people telling us what should work, but that we rapidly find doesn’t.

While the conventional wisdom is that you should look to other parents for help with your children, other parents don’t have your children. It’s more productive to turn to a social worker or other professional, such as James Lehman, who has dealt extensively with troubled and “problem” children… and, if you’re looking for ODD support, children like yours.

Mr. Lehman’s extensive experience has led him to a conclusion that not only works with the troubled or ODD child, but also with normal children – a hallmark of sound study. The problem is not simply that the behavior is wrong, but that the way it was chosen is wrong.

This stems from what Lehman calls a “thinking error,” usually learned at an early age. While you can “show your work” in math class to demonstrate that you have used the right method as well as gotten the right answer, our day to day decisions aren’t as easily examined.

When the process we use to make larger and more complex decisions is flawed beneath the surface, those larger decisions develop larger errors, which can manifest in several ways. Underneath, however, the massive errors are frequently caused by simple and small problems in the process – like not understanding when and how to “carry” a digit during addition.

When dealing with a child that has ODD, support is not simply for you, but for the child. Correcting these thinking errors is frequently all that is necessary.

To learn more about ODD Support For The Frustrated Parent, I highly recommend The Total Transformation Program, by James Lehman.

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