http://www.myproblemchild.net Helping Parents Deal with Obnoxious, Defiant and Abusive Kids Mon, 26 Jul 2010 12:11:41 +0000 http://backend.userland.com/rss092 en When you're a parent, other people who don't have kids tend to think of you as an expert. But you really aren't an expert out of the gate, are you? Generally, a parent's basic understanding about parenting is based upon how they were brought up by their parents. Or, they ... http://www.myproblemchild.net/articles/effective-parenting-and-abusive-or-obnoxious-children/ If you are a parent dealing with an abusive or defiant child, this may be of interest to you. There is a program called "The Total Transformation Program" by James Lehman. It helps parents with serious problems regarding their child's behavior. I've gone through all of the material and I agree ... http://www.myproblemchild.net/articles/save-over-300-on-the-total-transformation-program-with-their-feedback-offer/ The use of concrete transactions is another practice that children with bad, obnoxious and abusive behavior look into. Parents will find this certain practice quite interesting because basically it involves how kids see themselves and the roles they and their parents have with each other. A concrete transaction is a name ... http://www.myproblemchild.net/articles/obnoxious-and-abusive-kids-guide-the-concrete-transactions-dilemma/ Boundaries are used to mark dividing lines and define limits. Boundaries make separations clear. There are lots of things that need separations or dividing lines like property, territory, and even feelings and attitudes towards other people. These are what we call natural boundaries or personal boundaries that we use to ... http://www.myproblemchild.net/articles/parenting-enemies-the-one-way-boundaries-of-obnoxious-and-abusive-kids/ Being unique is what makes each and every one of us special. So that’s why we stand out and differentiate ourselves rather than try hard and fit in just like everybody else. But when does being unique become harmful? Children see uniqueness in a lot of perspectives. But bad, obnoxious ... http://www.myproblemchild.net/articles/why-it-is-a-problem-to-let-your-kids-assume-they-are-unique/ We often hear the phrase “life is not fair” from our friends and colleagues and it goes without saying that they have a pretty good reason to believe why that is true. Life will not always be a bed of roses. An ideal life story isn’t always made of walks ... http://www.myproblemchild.net/articles/why-obnoxious-and-abusive-kids-think-that-it%e2%80%99s-unfair-and-what-parents-can-do-about-it/ What's funny about child-related household problems is that you will always find two characters in the scenario: a victim and a person getting blamed by the victim. The irony in these scenarios is that those who usually play the victim are the actual culprits while those getting blamed for the ... http://www.myproblemchild.net/articles/what-parents-should-know-learn-and-avoid-the-victim-stance/ It's hard to figure out children. Disciplining children is a common struggle for all parents but it is even more challenging when you have kids who are displaying bad, obnoxious and abusive behavior and you don't know how or what these kids are thinking. That's why getting to know how ... http://www.myproblemchild.net/articles/why-parents-should-look-at-the-characteristics-and-practices-of-their-obnoxious-and-abusive-kids/ Parents come in different shapes, sizes, and even types. There are parents who are strict in disciplining while there are some who are free and open-minded. There are the classical parents who stay with tradition while there are also post-modern parents who go with the flow of the season. But ... http://www.myproblemchild.net/articles/getting-to-know-the-good-enough-parent/ No matter how much good or joy you see parenting can bring, it can never be helped that sometimes there are instances where you would feel like giving up. When you have kids that are bad, obnoxious, or abusive of others, as a parent you might go on a verge ... http://www.myproblemchild.net/articles/the-total-transformation-program-recommended-for-parents-and-kids/