As children go through the teenage years they transform into little adult wanna-bes that are rebellious and disrespectful at times. In other words, they become Defiant Teenagers.

They are stubborn and they may even do the exact opposite of what you say. But is this being done just to spite you?

Let’s try to look at it from a different perspective – yours.

Let’s say your own parents came over for the weekend. You wouldn’t want mom to be always looking over your shoulder and giving comments about how you’re not doing the casserole right.

You wouldn’t want good old dad to be giving you a disapproving look and muttering how you just could not get simple house repairs done yourself.

Being exposed to constant criticism and always being told what to do can breed some kind of resentment, don’t you think?

If teens are constantly receiving criticism and constantly being made to feel like they didn’t know what to do or that they can’t get things done, they are going to rebel.

Your defiant teenagers may just be viewing you as the enemy instead of the parent.

Teenagers are already operating under so much pressure – pressure from school; pressure from trying to make sense of the changes happening to them and those going on around them. They are pretty confused and scared.

The last thing they need when they get home would be a couple of resident critics whom they just can’t please. They just can’t handle more stress.

That’s why they rebel and become ill-tempered. As a result they talk back or say nasty things. They just become disrespectful.

Perhaps you scolded them for being disrespectful, and so they will continue resenting you. They don’t know how to fight back except in dragging their feet when you ask them to do something or worse, they will play deaf and not do anything at all.

This will make your blood boil and you nag and scold, etc. The cycle continues.

But you can make that stop. All you need to do is tweak your approach to your defiant teenagers a bit and you might get very different results at home the next time you deal with them.

When you see faults, don’t be too harsh in talking about it. When mistakes are made, don’t criticize. Instead, focus on the positive. Give them reassurance of your love and support. Make sure they feel you’re not judging them.

Learning how to approach teenagers successfully can make your life and theirs a lot easier and smoother.

Deal with defiant teenagers as you would have wanted yourself to be dealt with by your parents.

Wouldn’t it have been great if mom wasn’t so critical or if dad just accepted your capabilities? There wouldn’t have been as much hurt and resentment that burst out in rebellious and disrespectful behavior in past.

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